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21st May 2019 
About Counselling. Therapy room

The Therapeutic Alliance

"Sally came to therapy because she was unhappy about some of the thoughts and feelings she was experiencing. She felt that if someone looked in at her life from the outside they would see a successful and content mother and wife with a good job. She felt guilty and bad about herself at times because "what did she have to complain about". After starting therapy she began to acknowledge that she could have mixed feelings about certain aspects of her life and began to see how ingrained messages from the past were impacting on her here and now life experiences. By disentangling some of these past messages she began to allow more of her needs to be met without the guilt and feel happier in her relationships".

"Joey came to therapy because he felt he could not stop watching pornography and found this impacted on his personal relationships. He felt ashamed of this and in his secrecy tortured himself for this behaviour. He came from a good background and was well educated. On the surface he appeared successful and in control of his life. The hidden aspect was he was leading a double life which impacted on him in a very painful way when he was alone with himself. Through therapy he began to understand what his use of pornography was defending against and allowed his more vulnerable side to emerge. This helped in his relationships in the real world and the escape to the trance like world of pornography significantly lessened"

Usually individuals choose to have therapy because they are experiencing difficulties and distress in their lives. Sometimes people can be isolated but at other times, even where an individual has the most supportive family and friends, they can find it difficult if not impossible to explain why, for example, they may be feeling anxious and or depressed. Other life issues and events which can be very difficult to deal with include bereavement, divorce, redundancy, health issues, bullying and so on. However, you do not have to be in crisis or on the verge of one, before choosing to have therapy. You may be experiencing underlying feelings of dissatisfaction with life in general, or be seeking balance in your life and some sort of spirituality. All of these reasons and more will bring individuals to therapy.

I have created a safe and confidential environment that can lay the foundations to explore some of the problems that you might be struggling with. I put high value on the therapeutic relationship or alliance and how this can create possibilities for change. In this faciliative environment one can enhance insight and create opportunites for self-development. This can help free stuck or sabotaging thoughts, feelings or behaviours that have or are impacting on your life. It takes work and courage to address these things but can be a path to living a more fullfilling life.

The initial consultation involves us meeting for an hour to explore what has led you to seek help at this point in your life and to see whether you feel comfortable in working with me. If you do, we can agree either open ended or time-limited work together. We would agree to a day and time that is convenient for you and one that we could regularly adhere to. The ongoing sessions are for 50 minutes. If you would like to meet me for an initial consultation please call or email me. I look forward to hearing from you